Patricia Lamas Licensed Expert Couples Therapist in Los Angeles California & New York State

Hi, I’m Patricia. I started Securely Coupled to help move couples towards secure functioning.

Our relationships are imagined and co-created; They do not exist on their own. We bring assumptions, wants, needs, and unspoken expectations into our partnerships. We often times forget that collaboration, co-creation, and negotiation are all necessary for a relationship to excel and bloom.

With my help, you and your partner will

Evaluate the health of your relationship.
Reflect on your individual roles in the relationship.
Create your idealized relationship vision as individuals.

Come together and co-create your imagined, secure partnership.
Create agreements for your relationship.
Learn to fight fair & repair during conflicts.
Rebuild & create a better relationship together.

Can you imagine being in a relationship that feels secure?

Couples’ therapy is my passion, but I haven’t always been a couples’ therapist…

my upbringing

I was born in Madrid, Spain and was raised there until my parents decided to separate. I mention my parents’ separation, because this heavily influenced me to pursue couples work later on in life. I moved across the world with my mother and younger sister to New York state, where I eventually found my passion for mental health and community work.
my education

I received my Bachelor’s in Psychology from Le Moyne College in 2013 and my Masters in Social Work from Syracuse University in 2015. I worked at public city schools, a domestic violence center, and an outpatient clinic where I provided psychotherapy.
moving to L.A.

In 2015, I moved to Los Angeles to pursue my passion as a therapist. I provided intensive services to children, adolescents and their families at a non-profit agency subcontracted by the Department of Mental Health within the Full Service Partnership Program, and therapy to Children and Adolescents within the Glendale Unified School District.
starting my own private practice

After moving to LA, I became certified in Interpersonal Psychotherapy. Soon after I became DMH certified in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I received my license in Clinical Social Work (LCSW #85547) and then decided to begin my own private practice in 2018.
finding my passion for couples therapy

After having worked with children for a decade, I found my purpose in building a secure foundation for adults that may consider bringing other generations into the world. I recognised that kids needed strong and functional adults in stable relationships. If I could help adults build healthy relationships and communication skills, this would help their kids in the future. This is how my passion for couples work began.
becoming a PACT therapist

Soon after, I found my mentor Stan Tatkin, who created PACT, the psychobiological approach to couples’ therapy. I completed all 3 levels of PACT, and I currently coach Level 1 & 2 within the PACT institute therapist trainings. I also served as one of Stan Tatkins’ resident therapists for the 2021 Wired for Love retreat.
continuing my passion

I continue to be a life long learner in order to serve my clients with the best treatment modalities, and excel as a couples therapist. I offer relational tips for couples to 100,000 people on my Instagram and I have hired two practitioners to work alongside me in my private practice. What I give my clients, has guided my own relationship with my husband and my loved ones, and changes my life every day.